For the Girl Who Hates Her Body
It was opening weekend at the pool, my relaxing day spiraled into a meltdown of self-doubt and tears: my shorts did NOT fit?!!
My jean shorts that I've worn for years wouldn't button! There was NO WAY I was going to that pool now. I looked out my window to get a glimpse of the crowd. I thought, "Her body isn't in great shape, but her legs are smaller than mine..." Comparison: its ugly and wrong but if I'm being honest here I want you to know I catch myself doing it, too.
I paced to the mirror seeing my body so differently than I did an hour ago. I poked and pulled at the skin on my stomach and my legs, mad and sad all at the same time. "You should have worked harder. You should have chosen a kale smoothie over that cinnamon crunch bagel." Thoughts of my lack of effort and my not enough-ness flooded my words as I allowed one pair of jean shorts to diminish my entire sense of self-worth.
So for the girls who ask me, "How do you learn to see yourself as God sees you?" I want you to know I still struggle with that question, too. I don't have the perfect answer but I will share with you what I have learned:
Comparison will inevitably try to creep into our thoughts, but that doesn't mean we should allow it to rule our lives. If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. We transform our minds by getting in God's Word, that's where we learn to see ourselves as God sees us.
Stop wishing and start willing. Instead of allowing yourself to think "I wish I would have..." train yourself to think "I will..." My shorts may not fit today but I WILL make a plan to live a healthier lifestyle. I will focus on my gifts and the positive in my life today. I will even buy another pair of dang shorts if I have to!
Seeking perfection in this life will result in frustration and failure. There is nothing perfect in this world except Jesus. We begin to transform our minds to see ourselves as God sees us when we stop looking in the mirror and start looking to Him because our body measurements are not the standard of perfection, He is.
Photo Credit: Leanne Marshall